last update: Mid 2026!
Hi! I’m Shawn and I dislike dating apps but want to take relationships seriously… so here’s my attempt at opting out of the system! Here’s the basic “what everyone asks” from dating apps:
- 40yo Singaporean Chinese, 5’ 8’’ (172cm)
- Live in San Francisco/visit Singapore 1-2x/yr
- never married/no kids (want 26-40yo woman to marry and have kids)
- techie (but not 100% techbro tho I was an engineer and do have a podcast and do some angel investing, don’t worry none of my exes have ever cared about that stuff haha)
- singer (I’ve been in musicals (and have a Broadway cabaret group in SF!), acapella, teeny bit of guitar and violin. When I’m home there should always be something playing on the speakers, no exceptions!)
- writer (people like my blog and book and short stories and newsletter and communities)
- friendly, ambitious nerd (I sometimes run giant meetups and conferences)
- Obsessions: Dropout.tv, Coupling, bouldering, runs with friends, Deep Work, Discworld, Powerful movies, good podcasts. Have had both dogs and cats but don’t currently have any, would love to
- Mottos: Intentionality, Intensity, Integrity. Learning in Public. Playing Long Term Games.
- Not very religious but raised in Buddhist tradition, generally think souls and karma are real
- Social drinker, never smoked, regular exercise
You can ask Claude or ChatGPT and it’ll mostly be right. If you’re completely anti-AI then well we probably won’t fit anyway.
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